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Like most people, I’ll bet you never imagined that your drinking would become a problem. At first, your alcohol consumption was manageable. In fact, to be honest, it has been a great remedy for easing your anxiety, stress or depression. Consequently, quitting drinking probably never crossed your mind. What seemed to be a solution at first, however, has quickly turned into a pitfall. Your anxiety, emotional distress, or depression continues to increase and you have to use more alcohol to keep those emotions in check. Your urges to drink have become unmanageable and the cravings are unbearable. They are driving your behavior. You want to stop drinking, but you can’t seem to quit on your own. Does that resonate?
Do you feel trapped? Have you struggled to find happiness? Has your drinking problem begun to affect your personal or professional relationships? Are you at risk for losing your family and/or your job? Do you live in constant fear? On one side, you don’t want to lose your family or your job. On the other, you fear giving up the only thing that alleviates your anxiety, emotional distress or depression. You can stop drinking alcohol, solve these problems, and restore your life without attending AA meetings.
Are you exhausted from living two lives – one that includes a successful career and another that is riddled with alcohol abuse? Are you taking extreme measures to hide your problem from co-workers or business associates? Are you feeling uncomfortable in your own shoes? That is not a good feeling!
Like many people, who are alcohol dependent, you realize that drinking has become a problem. However, you don’t want to attend AA meetings in order to quit drinking. I understand how you feel. I have some good news, though. You you don’t have to. At the bottom of this page, I’ll provide 5 steps and 10 tips to help you quit drinking alcohol. I’ll show you, exactly, step by step, how to stop drinking alcohol without every leaving home. First, however, I want to outline some of the more common strategies to stop drinking.
Common Strategies to Stop Drinking
Most common strategies to stop drinking fight the effects of alcoholism. I believe that approach is fundamentally amiss. I discovered a decade ago that in order to stop drinking, authentically, the causes must be unearthed and eliminated. I’ll delve into that issue more deeply further down the page. For now, I want to review the conventional strategies to stop drinking:
You could just quit cold turkey, although that’s probably not the safest or easiest strategy. In all probability, if you haven’t addressed your anxiety, distress or depression, those emotions will increase during withdrawal. That makes it twice as hard to abstain because you’re fighting cravings and intensified anxiety, stress or depression. You can stop drinking cold turkey, but it’s a tough mountain to climb. Personally, I don’t believe this is one of the best strategies or steps to quit drinking.
I believe cravings are created by a pattern of self-medication in response to anxiety, emotional distress and depression that has become unmanageable. Basically, they are driven by anxiety, stress or depression. Cravings are not biologically or chemically induced. If your emotions haven’t been checked, then you will experience cravings, and you won’t stop drinking. In my mind, managing cravings is akin to putting a band-aid on a drinking problem. Unless you deal with the underlying issues that are causing your anxiety, stress or depression, you will find it difficult to quit drinking.
You can make your house dry or remove every drop of alcohol, and avoid social events in which it will be served, but that’s managing an effect instead of eliminating the cause. Avoiding so-called high-risk situations and/or triggers is not a very viable strategy. In my opinion, you will never stop drinking alcohol successfully by employing this strategy.
In summary, these common strategies are mostly ineffective.
Next, I want to cover the causes of alcoholism because it’s important to understand them if you want to learn how to stop drinking without AA.
Here’s What you Should Know About Alcoholism:
Contrary to claims made by Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) and mainstream recovery, alcoholism is not a disease. There simply is no empirical evidence to support the disease theory. But, don’t take my word for it. Watch this short video, “Alcoholism is not a disease” by, addiction expert and author, Stanton Peele. The National Institute on Drug Abuse will offer CT scan after scan highlighting changes in brain chemistry caused by substance abuse. However, these scans merely demonstrate the effect, not the cause. To make a leap in conclusion from effect to cause, based on this evidence, is fictional science. At the end of the day, alcohol addiction is a choice. If you understand why you made that choice, you can also choose to abstain. Recovery is not about changing brains, it’s about changing minds. I’m not talking about drinking. I’m talking about changing your mind about what’s causing you to drink. Alcoholics Anonymous can’t do that. Only you can change it. That is the truth.
The Four-Part Drinking Machine
After ten years of research, and interviewing hundreds of people with drinking problems, I am absolutely convinced that alcoholism is a form of emotional escape. I believe it is driven by anxiety, emotional distress and depression. It is catalyzed by self-esteem, personal power and personal identity. Alcohol abuse is sustained by emotional deterrents, false narratives and personal agendas. And, it is generated by patterns of family, relationship dynamics. Each of these levels or gears, synchronizes, and meshes together, in order to drive destructive drinking. If you address all four levels, urges and craving will vanish, and you’ll be able to stop drinking faster and easier. Below is a brief outline, from bottom to top, of the alcoholism machine:
1. The Generators
Patterns of family, relationship dynamics such as control, part-time parenting, verbal, physical and sexual abuse, and substance-abusive parenting form the basis for destructive drinking and mesh with the other gears. To stop drinking, successfully, you must set some boundaries and change the relationship dynamics.
2. The Catalyzers
Self-esteem, personal power, and personal identity are negatively charged and feed the Paralyzers and Drivers. To stop drinking, you must change the Catalyzers from a negative charge to a positive charge.
3. The Paralyzers
Emotional deterrents such as fear or anger freeze many people in their tracks, preventing them from making positive change. Personal agendas and false narratives provide an excuse to put the drinking pedal to the metal. If you want to give up alcohol without AA, you must remove the emotional deterrents and give up the false narratives and agendas.
4. The Drivers
Anxiety, emotional distress and depression are the Drivers of alcoholism. When these emotional states reach tipping points, alcohol is used to alleviate symptoms. This can also be described as self-medication. To stop drinking on your own, you must put your emotions in check by eliminating the drivers.
Below is an infographic which outlines the alcoholism machine. Feel free to copy and share.
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2 Facts About Alcoholics Anonymous
So, now that you thoroughly understand the causes, next, I want to point out why Alcoholics Anonymous doesn’t address them. But, first, I want to highlight the success rate of AA and also the rate of spontaneous remission.
1. What is the percentage of alcoholics who stay sober? Well, in his article “The Sober Truth about AA,” on Psychology Today, Dr. Lance Dodes, Psychiatrist, author, and director of the substance abuse treatment unit at Harvard’s McLean Hospital, clearly states that the Twelve-Step Program of AA has a success rate of 5-10 percent.
2. According to the National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism, approximately 75 percent of those who recover from alcohol dependence do so without seeking any kind of help, including specialty alcohol treatment programs and AA. So, is AA the only way to beat alcoholism? Absolutely not! Truthfully speaking, you are more likely to stop drinking by yourself.
Maybe you’ve already attended meetings and stopped drinking, but then you relapsed. If that’s the case, it’s not your fault. Or, perhaps you haven’t tried AA because you’re not exactly thrilled by the thought of giving away your power or standing up in front of total strangers and making the following admission: Hi! My name is ________, and I’m an alcoholic! Don’t worry: in either case, you can get sober without AA. So, you won’t have to make such an introduction ever again or start in the first place!
You Have the Power to Give up Alcohol
Step one of the Twelve-Step Program states: We admitted we were powerless over our addiction and our lives had become unmanageable. If drinking is out of control, and life has become unmanageable, then self-confidence is probably down as well. This happens quite frequently. Many of my clients, over the years, initially struggled with low-self-esteem as well as inadequate, personal power. That being said, why tell people they are powerless over anything? And, how does labeling yourself as an alcoholic boost self-esteem? Both of these approaches defy logic and are counterproductive to real recovery. The fact of the matter is; low self-esteem and inadequate, personal power are Catalyzers of alcoholism. Therefore, you must increase self-confidence and take back personal power, not reduce or give them away.
Get Sober and Stay Sober without AA Meetings
The AA members who are successful achieve sobriety through a behavioral transference. In other words, they substitute one addiction for another. They give up alcohol and replace it with AA ideology. That might lead to a sober lifestyle, but it’s not authentic. In order to stay sober, though, there’s a catch – you have to attend meetings for the rest of your life. Your destructive drinking, which is driven by anxiety, emotional distress and depression, and paralyzed by emotional deterrents and false narratives, has been displaced. The causes still remain. You just gave up alcohol and replaced it with meetings and ideology. Some people may be perfectly fine with that. Obviously, you are searching for an alternative, or you wouldn’t be here visiting my website. If you want to stop drinking, authentically and permanently, then you must address each level of the machine, which I outlined above. Don’t put a band-aid on your problem. Extract the root and eliminate it. Continue reading, and I’ll show you how to stop drinking by yourself.
Here’s where I come in:
For 10 years, I’ve researched this subject. I’ve spent 8 years, plus, in the trenches, working as a recovery coach. I’ve stood side by side those who struggled with drinking problems. So, I feel your pain and understand your predicament.
During my time as a recovery coach, I developed, tested, and used my own 5-step framework to help many clients stop drinking. I educated and enlightened even more on my unique approach. And, I’m ready to share the knowledge I acquired with you.
As a result of my research and coaching experience, I perfected a real, concrete solution that anyone can use. This is a unique approach that you won’t find anywhere else. With my 5-step framework, you won’t have to go cold turkey because willpower has absolutely nothing to do with recovery. You won’t have to gradually step down or count the days of sobriety because you’ll just stop drinking naturally, and you won’t even give it a second thought. There is….
No counting days of sobriety
No managing cravings
No avoiding triggers
No gradual step-down
I’ve streamlined the recovery process. You won’t need 12 steps to stop drinking. You only need five, and you can work them in the privacy of your own home. Below is a brief outline of my 5 step framework. For the complete, 5-step program, download my free e-guide at the top of the page.
5 Steps to Stop Drinking
Step 1 – Unearth and Eliminate the Generators:
Based on my research and experience, I have learned that alcoholism is generated in family, relationship dynamics. Various patterns such as control, verbal, physical and sexual abuse, part-time-parenting and substance–abusive parenting form the basis for alcohol dependency. To stop drinking, it is imperative that you address these issues.
Step 2 – Change the Catalyzers:
Self-esteem, personal power, and personal identity are negatively charged and feed the Paralyzers and drivers. In contrast to the AA principle of powerlessness, you must boost self-esteem, take back personal power, and establish personal identity to achieve full and authentic recovery from alcohol dependency.
Step 3 – Remove the Paralyzers:
Emotional deterrents such as fear or anger freeze many people in their tracks, preventing them from making positive change. Personal agendas and false narratives provide an excuse to put the drinking pedal to the metal. If you want to quit drinking alcohol, then you must remove the deterrents and give up the narratives and agendas.
Step 4 – Dismantle the Drivers:
Anxiety, emotional distress and depression are the drivers of alcoholism. When these emotional states reach tipping points, alcohol is used to alleviate symptoms. This can also be described as self-medication. As feelings of worry, dread, stress or hopelessness mount, and coping mechanisms fail, alcohol is used as a means of escape. To stop drinking alcohol for good, you must dismantle these drivers.
Step 5 – Unlock & Implement Life Purpose:
When living a life without meaning or purpose, one begins to question whether life is worth living at all. When failure is a regular occurrence, and success fades further off into the distance, frustration usually mounts. This is often fed by the Paralyzer, anger, which has been formed by a Generator. In either case, regardless whether it is anxiety or depression, unlocking and implementing meaning/purpose is crucial when you want to overcome alcoholism and achieve sobriety.
10 Tips to Quit Drinking Alcohol
1. Take an Inventory of Relationships
In a perfect world our personal lives would be filled with wonderful, loving and supportive relationships. Our professional lives would be overflowing with positive and mutually beneficial relationships, which contribute to success. Well, we don’t live in a perfect world. This is the foundation for alcohol addiction. If you want to stop drinking, it would behoove you take an inventory of your relationships.
2. Establish Boundaries
Based on my research and experience, I believe the direct fundamental cause of alcoholism is family, relationship dynamics. Various patterns of abuse and mistreatment form the basis for addictive behavior. It would serve you well to set some boundaries and put a stop to such behavior.
3. Set Goals and Boost Self-Confidence
Many people who can’t stop drinking often use alcohol to boost confidence in social settings. If you increase your self-confidence, naturally, by setting and achieving goals, you won’t need to drink.
4. Reclaim Personal Power
Powerlessness is a main tenet of AA. In my opinion, this concept is both counterintuitive and counter-productive to recovery. Most people drink destructively because they feel powerless. When someone has usurped your personal power, you feel as if you have lost control of your life and destiny. To to stop drinking without going to AA meetings, you must take back your power.
5. Build a Personal Brand
Right now, you may feel empty or feel as if you have an emotional hole inside. The answer is not to fill it with liquor. The solution is to close the emotional hole. Then, you can recover more easily than you might imagine. You can close the hole by establishing personal identity or building your own personal brand.
6. Let go of Paralyzing Emotions
Many people, who have alcohol problems, are paralyzed by emotional deterrents such as fear, anger, regret and shame. If you let go of the anger, and address the issue in question with the wrongdoer, you can make positive change and get on with life.
7. Stop Buying into Narratives
Stop telling yourself stories! There isn’t a good reason to continue drinking. Just because someone wronged you, or you committed certain improprieties, doesn’t mean you have to numb yourself to forget about the issues.
8. Forget about Personal Agendas
Quite frequently, drinking is sustained by personal agendas. Using alcohol abuse as a weapon, a means of getting attention, or as a way to avoid responsibility are all extremely poor plans that will back fire in the end.
9. Avoid Withdrawal Symptoms
Withdrawal is connected to anxiety, emotional distress and depression. If you quit cold turkey, and you haven’t addressed the drivers, they will increase and withdrawal symptoms will ensue. On the other hand, if you dismantle the drivers, then a gradual reduction will take place whereby eliminating withdrawal symptoms.
10. Don’t Anesthetize Depression – Marginalize it!
If you feel sad or hopeless, then you probably haven’t embraced the concept of self-love and you don’t have a great deal of meaning and purpose in your life. That can be changed. Alcohol is a depressant. Strangely enough, people use alcohol to alleviate depression. However, when the effects wear off, your depression will return, and most likely will worsen. Don’t attempt to anesthetize your depression. Instead, marginalize it with a boost of self-esteem and a clear path and purpose.
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So, are you ready to learn how to stop drinking without AA? Download my free e-guide, and in the next 60 days you can….
- Give up alcohol and regain control of your life.
- Douse the flames of your anxiety – no more worries or restless nights
- Dump your depression – no more sadness, hopelessness or unhappiness
- Discover stress-free living and, finally, get some peace and tranquility
- Repair and rebuild the relationships that your drinking, nearly, destroyed
- Increase your self-esteem and create truly unstoppable self-confidence
- Establish your own unique brand and walk comfortably in your own shoes
- Find meaning, purpose and happiness in life
- Create a fast track to personal and professional success
,,,,even if you’ve tried AA or specialized treatment and relapsed again and again.
They say that knowledge is power. To be honest, knowledge, stand alone, is not power. Possessing the right knowledge and understanding how to use it is where the real power lies. Today, you can gain access to both.
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