How to Stop Drinking on your Own: A Complete, 5-Step Plan
Would you like to learn how to stop drinking on your own? It is absolutely possible to stop drinking without Alcoholics Anonymous or treatment. Research shows that 75% of those who are alcohol dependent do quit drinking on their own. Towards the bottom of the page, I’m going to provide 5 steps and 7 tricks to help you learn how to stop drinking on your own. First, I’d like to outline some of the common methods for quitting on your own and delve more deeply into the causes of alcoholism.
Common Methods for Quitting on your Own
When it comes to common methods or ways to quit drinking alcohol on your own, most of them fight the effects. Personally, I would rather attack and eliminate the causes. I’ll explain in moment. But, first, I want to take a look at some of the more common methods:
You could just stop drinking cold turkey, although that’s probably not the safest or easiest strategy to quit on your own. In all likelihood, if you haven’t addressed your anxiety, stress or depression, those emotions will increase during withdrawal. That makes it twice as hard to abstain because you’re fighting alcohol and intensified anxiety, stress or depression. It can be accomplished, but quitting cold turkey is a tough hill to climb. Personally, I don’t believe this is the best way to go. There’s a better and more effective way to learn how to stop drinking on your own.
In my opinion, cravings are created by a pattern of self-medication in response to anxiety, emotional distress and depression that has become unmanageable. If those emotions haven’t been checked, then you will experience cravings. To me, managing cravings is sort of like putting a band-aid on your drinking problem. This is not the best way to learn how to stop drinking on your own.
You can remove all alcohol from your house and avoid social events in which alcohol will be served, but, once again, that’s managing an effect instead of unearthing and eliminating the cause. This strategy will prove to be an exercise in futility.
One of the best tips on how to stop drinking on your own, most effectively, is attacking and eliminating the causes. If you want to rid your yard of an unsightly weed, would you prune the thorns daily? I doubt it! In all likelihood, you would pull the weed out by the root. Alcoholism is no different. However, to be successful using this strategy, it’s important to understand the causes of destructive drinking.
Understanding the Four-Part, Destructive Drinking Machine
For a decade, I have researched alcoholism. During that time, I interviewed hundreds of alcohol dependent individuals. I have also worked, in the trenches, as an addiction recovery coach for 8 years plus. From that research and experience, I have concluded that alcoholism is a form of emotional escape. I also believe that alcohol is driven by emotional states such as anxiety, emotional distress and depression. Additionally, I believe alcohol addiction is charged by low self-esteem, inadequate personal power and distorted personal identity. I also believe that alcohol dependency is paralyzed by emotional deterrents, false narratives and personal agendas. And, lastly, I believe alcoholism is generated by patterns of family, relationship dynamics. Each of these levels or cogs synchronizes, and meshes together, in order to drive the alcoholism machine. If you address each of these gears or levels cravings will disappear, and you’ll be able to stop drinking alcohol on your own. Below is a brief outline of the destructive drinking or alcoholism machine:
1. The Generators of Alcoholism
Family, relationship dynamics form the basis for alcohol addiction and mesh with the other 3 gears. Various patterns such as control, part-time parenting, verbal, physical and sexual abuse, and substance-abusive parenting lay the foundation for negatively charging the catalyzers.
2. The Catalyzers of Alcoholism
Low self-esteem, inadequate personal power, and cloudy personal identity feed emotional deterrents and create false narratives and personal agendas, which prevent positive change and sustain alcoholism.
3. The Paralyzers of Alcoholism
Emotional deterrents such as fear, anger, regret and shame paralyze alcohol dependents, which prevent them from making positive change. Personal agendas and false narratives are manufactured to excuse alcohol abuse.
4. The Drivers of Alcoholism
Emotional states like anxiety, distress, and depression are the drivers of alcoholism. When they become unbearable, and coping mechanisms fail, alcohol is used as self-medication.
5 Steps for Overcoming Alcoholism on your Own
Step 1 – Unearth and Eliminate the Generators:
As a result of my work as an addiction recovery coach, I have learned that alcoholism is generated by family, relationship dynamics. Patterns such as control, verbal, physical and sexual abuse, part-time-parenting and substance–abusive parenting creates a foundation for alcoholism and is, in my opinion, the direct, fundamental cause of alcohol addiction. If you want to give up alcohol on your own, then addressing and eliminating theses issues would be extremely important.
Step 2 – Change the Catalyzers:
Low Self-esteem, inadequate personal power and a lack of personal identity feed emotional deterrents such as fear, anger, regret and shame. This also provides a basis for manufacturing false narratives and personal agendas, which sustain destructive drinking. To quit alcohol without any help, you must boost self-esteem, take back personal power, and establish personal identity.
Step 3 – Remove the Paralyzers:
Emotional deterrents such as fear, anger, regret and shame stall positive action and prevent alcohol dependents from making the change needed for overcoming alcoholism. Personal agendas and false narratives are manufactured to excuse alcohol abuse. If you want to learn how to stop drinking permanently and recover from alcohol dependency, you must remove the deterrents and give up the narratives and agendas.
Step 4 – Dismantle the Drivers:
Emotional states like anxiety, distress, and depression drive alcoholism. When these emotional states are no longer manageable, and coping skills fall short, alcohol is used to alleviate symptoms. As feelings of worry, dread, stress or hopelessness mount, alcohol is used to self-medicate. If you want to get clear on how to quit drinking on your own, then you must eliminate the drivers.
Step 5 – Unlock & Implement Life Purpose
When feeling a deep sense of sadness and hopelessness, alcohol dependent individuals begin to question whether life is worth living at all. To forget about feelings of melancholy and, what they believe to be a meaningless life, addicted individuals self-medicate with alcohol. Of course, those circumstances can be changed, and they can find as much meaning and purpose as everyone else. If you struggle with depression, and you want to learn how to give up alcohol on your own and stop being an alcoholic, then you must unlock and implement your true meaning and purpose.
7 Tricks for Quitting Drinking on your Own
1. In a perfect world our personal and professional lives would be filled with wonderful and supportive relationships. To be perfectly honest and brutally blunt, we don’t live in a perfect world. Sometimes you have to set boundaries, and, on occasion, it’s even necessary to sever a relationship. Dysfunctional, relationship dynamics are the foundation for alcoholism. If your goal is to learn how to stop drinking on your own, it would be in your best interest to take an inventory of relationships.
2. Many people, who are addicted to alcohol, use it to increase confidence in social settings. If you boost your self-confidence naturally, though, by setting and achieving goals, then you won’t need a shot of liquid courage.
3. Alcohol dependent individuals often feel as if they have an emotional hole inside. The answer is not to fill it with alcohol. The solution is to close the emotional hole. Then, you can stop drinking. To close the hole, you have to establish personal identity or build your own personal brand.
4. Alcohol dependent individuals are usually halted in their tracks by emotional deterrents such as fear, anger, regret and shame. If you let go of the anger or regret, and address the issue in question with the party or parties involved, you can take some positive steps forward and learn how to cure alcoholism.
5. If you stop buying into stories, which so often provide a license for alcohol abuse, then you will have removed a need to drink. If you are using alcohol for an ulterior motive, abandoning your personal agenda will go a long way towards learning how to stop drinking on your own.
6. Withdrawal is connected to anxiety, emotional distress and depression. If you quit drinking cold turkey, and you haven’t put your emotions in check, you will experience withdrawal symptoms. Alternatively, if you eliminate your anxiety, stress or depression, you can gradually reduce your alcohol consumption without experiencing withdrawal symptoms
7. If you feel sad or hopeless, then you’re most likely a little short on self-love and don’t really have a lot of meaning/purpose in your life. That all can change when you uncover and address the root causes of alcoholism. While it is true that alcohol is a depressant, oddly enough, people use it to alleviate depression. When the effects from the alcohol subside, though, depression returns and, in most cases, is more severe. Instead of anesthetizing your depression with alcohol, I recommend marginalizing it with a boost of self-esteem and some purpose.
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